Moving on …to greener pastures!

There comes a time in your life when you get tired of trying again, faced with moving on or holding on status quo. When you know what to do, but refuse to make a choice in life because of the situation you are faced with.

There is a saying that goes; “Moving on does not always mean your weak, just sometimes mean you’re courageous enough to let go”.

Reminds me of this quote: “Moving on is not so difficult. Letting go is harder to do, but this is what will make you an adult. Only spoiled kids cry when they can’t get what they want.”

Most people don’t want to move on because they are afraid on the changes that will take place in their lives. They are faced with thought of doubts, but come on we all exactly know when it is no longer worth the fight since it’s a losing battle you fight and we all know when to hold on when it will bring you joy.

Realty behind all this is that when you fight for something, after the victory should it not bring you moments of joy, peace and ease at mind. But instead as witnessed it brings more pain, resent and grudges towards the other person. Now you tell me was it worth the fight...?

Words from a broken Heart

Words from Broken heart!

“It’s hard to tell your mind to stop loving someone when your heart still does.”
When it comes to relationships and their ending, I think many of us have heard the saying…
“It is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all.” – Alfred Lord Tennyson
But it sure doesn’t feel like it when you’re experiencing the pain of heartache/heartbreak. We feel the loss like we’re an addict going through withdrawal.
“Love is the hardest drug to quit, but it is even harder when it is taken away.” (author unknown)
Maybe you noticed that things were different between the two of you. You may have felt the person distancing themselves from you. You may have had a feeling that the end was near…
Or it happened suddenly…
“Breaking up. It happens kind of suddenly. One minute, you’re holding hands walking down the street, and the next minute, you’re lying on the floor crying and all the good CDs are missing.” – Kennedy Kasares
The pain is excruciating. You didn’t know you could hurt this much. You really want this pain to stop. Time goes by, it still hurts, and you think – ‘Is time really on my side?’ because…
“They say that time heals all wounds but all it’s done so far is give me more time to think about how much I miss you.” – Ezbeth Wilder
You’re obsessing over him/her and feel…You know you can’t be friends …
But you’re hoping and praying he/she will come to his/her senses and realize…
“Ain’t No Sunshine” (by Bill Withers)
You just want to wake up from this nightmare. You want to hear your loved one say…
“OR
“Let’s Stay Together” (by Al Green)
BaEveryone says…
“If someone you love hurts you, cry a river, build a bridge, and get over it.” – Anonymous
But even though you try you…
“Can’t Let Go” (by Mariah Carey)
by Come Back” (by Player)
You know that …
“Living in the past causes you to miss out on the present. Life is too short to let it pass you by.”
But your heart is saying…
“I Still Believe” (by Brenda K. Starr)

Remember…That time heals all wounds, so in the end love like you have never been loved and give without expecting back.

Mistakes...

MISTAKES are made to Learn through it!

Looking back at the things I've done, I can only say that it helped me to be where I am today.

Many times in life you will hear that people say that you should forget about your past ...not necessary in my context,

 because that keeps me strong and makes me alert on not doing those mistakes again.

I believe they mean we should forget the bad feelings you felt towards others and anger towards yourself while going through that and in the sense of not doing it again.

A mistake is errors to prove we are not perfect, but also does not mean one have to do it intentionally.

Life is like a journey you’re on and as you travel on this road it has humps, potholes sometimes wild animals and all this is to make you a better driver through experience. The same is when you make mistakes you learn through it and become more experienced and when going on a journey of the same sort you will most defiantly watch out for those potholes (mistakes), in life it can be sometimes avoided, other times it is not as visible to the eyes as some are.

When you make a mistake…well look at where did you go wrong analyse it and don’t stay to long turning in circles on that spot…like they say stop crying over spilled milk, exactly that. Then accept it as a mistake and move on with your life bearing in mind it will never be done twice.

The first mistake is innocently, but the second mistake is your own negligence regarding the same mistake.

In my life when I recall everything I went through, if someone asks me will I re-do it if I could my answer would be No.

Why would you probably ask me? Reason is that exactly all I went through, I will never want to change it.

All that ,made me wiser then before stronger then yesterday and it made me a better person.

 I would most probably not be if it was not for that I went through in my life.

 I am over all I went through and it’s no more a pain but this involves other people, I am not able to mention so I would rather not speak about it at this stage in time.

Sometimes experiences are not mentioned by the years of life but by the things one went through in life.

There are cases where as a younger person is more matured in some things because he/she most probably were faced with this challenges at early stage then a person 10 years or 20 years older.

So don’t always undermine the power of a younger person, I am writing this out of occurrence.

It’s not things I suck from my thumb and start writing, no they are things experienced by my very self.

If you are angry at someone for any kind of mistake in life or at yourself take a moment, take days if necessary to mediate if it is worth it to remain that way …I already have the answer to that but that’s only mine you should have your own on that.   

ZZ*Namibia: The first cut is the deepest

ZZ*Namibia: The first cut is the deepest: "They say it is the deepest for a reason because it's the first! Have you ever felt this way,that you wanna look back but there is no way yo..."

The first cut is the deepest

They say it is the deepest for a reason because it's the first!

Have you ever felt this way,that you wanna look back but there is no way you can because it is part of your past ,or you wanna pick up the pieces of your heart and meant every piece together ,but that does not happen so fast it take time,effort,motivation and most of all courage because not all people can do it.

You may probably feel that well I tried all I can ,but it does not work ,it will when you put your mind to it.Many of times I wondered where does all my strenght comes from of the things I went through and still do. Then I look up where my help comes from above.

Some people are happy sharing it with some one and others are better of alone,true happiness is not only found with being with someone but it is first found within yourself.When you finally find the one you love it is not for that person to make you happy but instead you should look forward to be making someone else happy and when you both have that mutual goal it will be a lovely love for the two of you.

ZZ*Namibia: Either torn Apart or brouht togehter again!

ZZ*Namibia: Either torn Apart or brouht togehter again!: "They say a picture can tell a thousand words sure that is true.I stopped and stared at this picture wondering what does it tell me individu..."

Either torn Apart or brouht togehter again!

They say a picture can tell a thousand words sure that is true.I stopped and stared at this picture wondering what does it tell me individually and to my surprise it rested upon my heart.When you look at this picture and you think of a relationship between a gentle man and a lady. It starts where the two railways begin from where there is a space between the two railways that's when they don't know each other they get to know each other and really get to know each other there differences and the whole works we all now by know.The begin to get fonder of one another feelings gets stronger and it's the start of something new it feels so right to be with him/her.And in life we face challenges everyday in all types of areas of our lives and that's when you look in the picture when the two go more apart from one another which one can relate to distance or for that matter any type of situation ,that's the most important part in any relationship, do they hold on or do they leave hands this determines when they get back to the narrow part who really placed effort to save or not at all and is it worth to continue or not should we only be strong in good times and leave when it is bad times,When my relationship ended as it did it made me think for months to go what most effected me in this relationship that I was willing to hold on but if the other person don't want it wont work.But that made me realise in life this is needed it makes you see more than ever you will be there till the End.

Finally behind Me

Finally behind Me

When you finally put behind your past it's like a weight lifted from you,I took some time off from work and my life for 4 days and went to the beach to re-think my life ,because unless you clean and finally put the past where it belongs it will always come back and haunt you,that's what exactly happened to me.

I thought about everything that happened to me for the past years and what made me keep all this for so long ,well I did find valued reasons but it's not worth to destroy my precious life ,I will not allow this person to take away my power ,and that's what we always allow the person to do when we are hurt or in somehow been disappointed ,heart broken ,raped,molested,abused and all the rest ,if you ask me is it possible to come over the previous mentioned yes is the answer yes...you can you just have to deal with it in your way and trust God in all of it.Its hard it's not easy... I know of what I am writing about.

But the possibilities to overcome it it 100%...Yes it is!

I thought about so many things and so many questions were answered to me during the ''ME TIME" days I literally stepped out of the box and watched my life from a distance,now I will take one step at a time and will no more worry about the past less about the future.

We only got one life so take all you have to make it the most and best of memories ,nobody can hurt you without you allowing him/her to.