YOU

You... You are probably wondering why is the topic name you? Because this post is all about you,yes you! When in life you go through trails,troubles,deep en dark moments we tend to lose our values of how much we are worth. We forget how precious we are and we look down on ourselves we tend to put ourselfs down in front of others, which is not right.Never make yourself feel bad to make others feel better. To love and be loved is great, but the greatest of all is self love, love for yourself. In my opinion, the way you take care of yourself determines the way you care for others.If you treat yourself with great respect will you never think twice to treat the next person with respect. When we go through bad things in life, make sure you take care of yourself.They say your only as good as you feel,you are. Dress for success, because you deserve it all the way through the way. The motivation most of the time you give yourself,goes beyond and that's what takes you through in life. If you care for yourself and you go through life's trauma don't feel sorry for yourself or make others feel sorry for you.Fight and conquer is much better than pity from others. So by ending this chapter for now by the words of "The way you see yourself is more important than what people think o say" A cat looks in the mirror and see's a lion. What do you SEE?

25 Things ladies don't realize!

You HAVE to read all of them and if you don't your going to come across 
with problems in your relationship for the next month! 
1. Guys may be flirting around all day, but before they go to sleep, 
they always think about the girl they truly care about.... 
2. Guys are more emotional then you think, if they loved you at one 
point, it'll take them a lot longer then you think to let you go, and 
it hurts every second that they try. 
3. Guys go crazy over a girl's smile. 
4. A guy who likes you wants to be the only guy you talk to. 
5. Boyfriends need to be reassured often that they're still loved. 
6. Guys don't care how gorgeous you are. 
7. Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know 
what?..uh...nevermind.." would make him jump to a conclusion that is 
far from what you are thinking. And he'll assume he did something 
wrong and he'll obsess about it trying to figure it out. 
8. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to 
listen to him. You don't need to give advice. 
9. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you. 
10. Guys love you more than you love them 
11. Guys use words like hot or cute to describe girls. They rarely use 
beautiful or gorgeous. If a guy uses that, he loves you or likes you a 
whole heck of a lot. 
12. No matter how much guys talk about whats on the outside,personalityis key. 
13. Guys think WAY too much. One small thing a girl does, even if she 
doesn't notice it can make the guy think about it for hours, trying to 
figure out what it meant but some know that it was just prolly nothing 
so if it is supposed to mean something then make that meaning 
noticable so that they can react on the spot. 
14. If the guy does something stupid in front of the girl, he will 
think about it for the next couple days or until the next time he 
spends time with the girl. 
15.If a guy looks unusually calm and laid back, he's probably faking 
it and he is really thinking about something 
16. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl, he really is. 
Guys rarely say that. 
17.When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he's just actually saying, 
"Please come and listen to me 
18. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him. It doesn't 
happen that often, so when it does, you know something's up. 
19. When a guy looks at you for longer than a second, he's definitely 
thinking something. 
20. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable 
decisions and are MAD confusing but somehow are drawn even more to 
them. 
21.Some men are more sensitive than women

22. No guy can handle all his problems on his own. He's just too 
stubborn to admit it. 
23.NOT ALL GUYS ARE JACKASSES 
Just because ONE is a jackass doesnt mean he represents ALL of them 
24.When a guy sacrifices his sleep and health just to be with you, he 
really likes you and wants to be with you as much as possible 
25.Even if you dump a guy months ago and he loved you he probably 
still does and if he had one wish it would be you to come back into 
his life

Moving on …to greener pastures!

There comes a time in your life when you get tired of trying again, faced with moving on or holding on status quo. When you know what to do, but refuse to make a choice in life because of the situation you are faced with.

There is a saying that goes; “Moving on does not always mean your weak, just sometimes mean you’re courageous enough to let go”.

Reminds me of this quote: “Moving on is not so difficult. Letting go is harder to do, but this is what will make you an adult. Only spoiled kids cry when they can’t get what they want.”

Most people don’t want to move on because they are afraid on the changes that will take place in their lives. They are faced with thought of doubts, but come on we all exactly know when it is no longer worth the fight since it’s a losing battle you fight and we all know when to hold on when it will bring you joy.

Realty behind all this is that when you fight for something, after the victory should it not bring you moments of joy, peace and ease at mind. But instead as witnessed it brings more pain, resent and grudges towards the other person. Now you tell me was it worth the fight...?

Words from a broken Heart

Words from Broken heart!

“It’s hard to tell your mind to stop loving someone when your heart still does.”
When it comes to relationships and their ending, I think many of us have heard the saying…
“It is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all.” – Alfred Lord Tennyson
But it sure doesn’t feel like it when you’re experiencing the pain of heartache/heartbreak. We feel the loss like we’re an addict going through withdrawal.
“Love is the hardest drug to quit, but it is even harder when it is taken away.” (author unknown)
Maybe you noticed that things were different between the two of you. You may have felt the person distancing themselves from you. You may have had a feeling that the end was near…
Or it happened suddenly…
“Breaking up. It happens kind of suddenly. One minute, you’re holding hands walking down the street, and the next minute, you’re lying on the floor crying and all the good CDs are missing.” – Kennedy Kasares
The pain is excruciating. You didn’t know you could hurt this much. You really want this pain to stop. Time goes by, it still hurts, and you think – ‘Is time really on my side?’ because…
“They say that time heals all wounds but all it’s done so far is give me more time to think about how much I miss you.” – Ezbeth Wilder
You’re obsessing over him/her and feel…You know you can’t be friends …
But you’re hoping and praying he/she will come to his/her senses and realize…
“Ain’t No Sunshine” (by Bill Withers)
You just want to wake up from this nightmare. You want to hear your loved one say…
“OR
“Let’s Stay Together” (by Al Green)
BaEveryone says…
“If someone you love hurts you, cry a river, build a bridge, and get over it.” – Anonymous
But even though you try you…
“Can’t Let Go” (by Mariah Carey)
by Come Back” (by Player)
You know that …
“Living in the past causes you to miss out on the present. Life is too short to let it pass you by.”
But your heart is saying…
“I Still Believe” (by Brenda K. Starr)

Remember…That time heals all wounds, so in the end love like you have never been loved and give without expecting back.

Mistakes...

MISTAKES are made to Learn through it!

Looking back at the things I've done, I can only say that it helped me to be where I am today.

Many times in life you will hear that people say that you should forget about your past ...not necessary in my context,

 because that keeps me strong and makes me alert on not doing those mistakes again.

I believe they mean we should forget the bad feelings you felt towards others and anger towards yourself while going through that and in the sense of not doing it again.

A mistake is errors to prove we are not perfect, but also does not mean one have to do it intentionally.

Life is like a journey you’re on and as you travel on this road it has humps, potholes sometimes wild animals and all this is to make you a better driver through experience. The same is when you make mistakes you learn through it and become more experienced and when going on a journey of the same sort you will most defiantly watch out for those potholes (mistakes), in life it can be sometimes avoided, other times it is not as visible to the eyes as some are.

When you make a mistake…well look at where did you go wrong analyse it and don’t stay to long turning in circles on that spot…like they say stop crying over spilled milk, exactly that. Then accept it as a mistake and move on with your life bearing in mind it will never be done twice.

The first mistake is innocently, but the second mistake is your own negligence regarding the same mistake.

In my life when I recall everything I went through, if someone asks me will I re-do it if I could my answer would be No.

Why would you probably ask me? Reason is that exactly all I went through, I will never want to change it.

All that ,made me wiser then before stronger then yesterday and it made me a better person.

 I would most probably not be if it was not for that I went through in my life.

 I am over all I went through and it’s no more a pain but this involves other people, I am not able to mention so I would rather not speak about it at this stage in time.

Sometimes experiences are not mentioned by the years of life but by the things one went through in life.

There are cases where as a younger person is more matured in some things because he/she most probably were faced with this challenges at early stage then a person 10 years or 20 years older.

So don’t always undermine the power of a younger person, I am writing this out of occurrence.

It’s not things I suck from my thumb and start writing, no they are things experienced by my very self.

If you are angry at someone for any kind of mistake in life or at yourself take a moment, take days if necessary to mediate if it is worth it to remain that way …I already have the answer to that but that’s only mine you should have your own on that.   

ZZ*Namibia: The first cut is the deepest

ZZ*Namibia: The first cut is the deepest: "They say it is the deepest for a reason because it's the first! Have you ever felt this way,that you wanna look back but there is no way yo..."

The first cut is the deepest

They say it is the deepest for a reason because it's the first!

Have you ever felt this way,that you wanna look back but there is no way you can because it is part of your past ,or you wanna pick up the pieces of your heart and meant every piece together ,but that does not happen so fast it take time,effort,motivation and most of all courage because not all people can do it.

You may probably feel that well I tried all I can ,but it does not work ,it will when you put your mind to it.Many of times I wondered where does all my strenght comes from of the things I went through and still do. Then I look up where my help comes from above.

Some people are happy sharing it with some one and others are better of alone,true happiness is not only found with being with someone but it is first found within yourself.When you finally find the one you love it is not for that person to make you happy but instead you should look forward to be making someone else happy and when you both have that mutual goal it will be a lovely love for the two of you.